We frequently embalmed bodies to preserve the appearance of the deceased. Cremation was also an option. I was speaking more of the mourning that comes afterwards. I am not usually invited to such things, but the kind that includes liturgy and eulogy. The graveside services are also charming in their own way.
["Charming"... she still thinks she's being subtle enough. She hasn't said anything horribly weird. Funeral services can be charming!]
The longer one lives the more familiar they become with such things. My personal interest is something all together different. I don't expect many to share it.
I think I get what you mean. People mourn in different ways, I know that I did after my own loss. There wasn't a coffin or anything involved, though.
(never mind that this sounds concerning more, that she could be so....blunt. about her own history with death. but it was something she didn't think too much about. it's kill or be killed, she only participates the way she knows best and can do best.)
Hobbies tend to help more, don't they? I mean, back home I know of people who are a lot older than me in passing....one of them being that doctor I mentioned that wanted my blood for her collection. Honestly? It seemed lonely?
I've even heard about cultures that celebrate at funerals. There are large banquets and dancing. I am not good at dancing but I would certainly try for something like that.
[As for mourning without a coffin... that wasn't as incriminating as it could be. There were many battlefields where bodies were never recovered. She had personally made sure some bodies were unrecovered. Death continues. Grief continues. Life continues.]
My hobby has always helped whenever I have felt lonely. Loneliness is possible at every age, though. As is being so called upon and needed that it's irritating.
Think I'm better at dancing than I care to admit, then again I had to learn how to. Ballroom dance, tango, the list goes on.
Can't tell if I was expected to learn in case if I needed it or because of etiquette sometimes.
(with or without a coffin, she made her peace and said what she felt she had to say. despite it all, she didn't wish for that to be the end of the man that practically raised her.)
No, I understand that. It does feel more annoying to consider when people point it out too often.
It can't be that bad, can it? Dancing for you, I mean.
(probably better they don't find out there....)
The first more, the first causes them to drag me out often. Sometimes it can go unnoticed more since I can blend in well enough to the background more than anywhere else.
Or it might not, it depends on how often they're around me.
I don't suppose I would be terrible. The kind of dancing this place encourages isn't my ideal.
[She would dance for a funeral or perhaps some appropriately high-class social event but... the sexy kind?... No... No, thanks...]
It does sound like you have lovely friends if they drag you out when you're lonely. Sometimes a person being a little extra forceful makes all the difference.
Given, this place is....more open about sex and the like, dancing sounds like it might turn into pole dancing and lap dances. Or too much bump and grind.
(she does unfortunately frequent house finch a little....)
They do care a lot. And I miss them, I just wouldn't want them to be here.
I don't know what those are. Please don't tell me. I'll research on my own time. There's no need for either of us to get embarrassed.
[she doesn't want to get embarrassed. don't worry about it.]
[Also, Clara relates. If the person who first got her out of her shell showed up here, she'd sincerely start thinking about who she'd have to kill about it.]
(nothing like explaining to your new friend what pole dancing and grinding is....
but, enough about that. did she feel less lonely? honestly, that's the struggle. she does have people she likes in the resort, people that did encourage her a little to break out of her shell. it varied in success, which isn't unusual, but texas does appreciate them and care about them.)
There is, if you were worried about it for yourself, too. Sometimes they just find you.
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Date: 2025-04-09 02:37 pm (UTC)You mean like when people embalm the bodies to prep for funerals?
Or whenever they're prepared to cremate the body in a crematorium?
(not that terra doesn't have funerals, it's more....a lot happens. not even the infected are given burials depending, out of fear of it spreading.)
I can't say I'm that well versed in this.
(her only "funerary rite" given was setting the manor on fire. burning away the corpses, her grandfather's own included.)
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Date: 2025-04-09 06:27 pm (UTC)["Charming"... she still thinks she's being subtle enough. She hasn't said anything horribly weird. Funeral services can be charming!]
The longer one lives the more familiar they become with such things. My personal interest is something all together different. I don't expect many to share it.
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Date: 2025-04-11 05:48 am (UTC)(never mind that this sounds concerning more, that she could be so....blunt. about her own history with death. but it was something she didn't think too much about. it's kill or be killed, she only participates the way she knows best and can do best.)
Hobbies tend to help more, don't they?
I mean, back home I know of people who are a lot older than me in passing....one of them being that doctor I mentioned that wanted my blood for her collection. Honestly? It seemed lonely?
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Date: 2025-04-11 07:13 pm (UTC)[As for mourning without a coffin... that wasn't as incriminating as it could be. There were many battlefields where bodies were never recovered. She had personally made sure some bodies were unrecovered. Death continues. Grief continues. Life continues.]
My hobby has always helped whenever I have felt lonely.
Loneliness is possible at every age, though. As is being so called upon and needed that it's irritating.
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Date: 2025-04-22 01:44 am (UTC)Ballroom dance, tango, the list goes on.
Can't tell if I was expected to learn in case if I needed it or because of etiquette sometimes.
(with or without a coffin, she made her peace and said what she felt she had to say. despite it all, she didn't wish for that to be the end of the man that practically raised her.)
No, I understand that.
It does feel more annoying to consider when people point it out too often.
(says the lone wolf and ice queen.)
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Date: 2025-05-01 03:59 am (UTC)[Then again being more capable than Clara in physicality is a "the bar is on the floor" situation.]
Do they point out you're lonely or point out you're irritated?
I imagine one is easier to see than the other.
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Date: 2025-05-01 05:59 am (UTC)Dancing for you, I mean.
(probably better they don't find out there....)
The first more, the first causes them to drag me out often.
Sometimes it can go unnoticed more since I can blend in well enough to the background more than anywhere else.
Or it might not, it depends on how often they're around me.
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Date: 2025-05-05 03:11 pm (UTC)[She would dance for a funeral or perhaps some appropriately high-class social event but... the sexy kind?... No... No, thanks...]
It does sound like you have lovely friends if they drag you out when you're lonely.
Sometimes a person being a little extra forceful makes all the difference.
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Date: 2025-05-12 06:28 pm (UTC)(she does unfortunately frequent house finch a little....)
They do care a lot.
And I miss them, I just wouldn't want them to be here.
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Date: 2025-05-13 05:12 am (UTC)[she doesn't want to get embarrassed. don't worry about it.]
[Also, Clara relates. If the person who first got her out of her shell showed up here, she'd sincerely start thinking about who she'd have to kill about it.]
I hope there are people here for your loneliness.
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Date: 2025-05-13 10:46 am (UTC)(nothing like explaining to your new friend what pole dancing and grinding is....
but, enough about that. did she feel less lonely? honestly, that's the struggle. she does have people she likes in the resort, people that did encourage her a little to break out of her shell. it varied in success, which isn't unusual, but texas does appreciate them and care about them.)
There is, if you were worried about it for yourself, too.
Sometimes they just find you.